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Beaches and belonging. My husband wants to divorce me because I am not beautiful. My wife is a vey demanding person. Make sure she knows you had a good time and will be getting in touch with her about a second date if that is what you decide to do. Otherwise, just let her know you had a good time and leave it at that. After having gone through the initial phase of meeting a girl, getting to know her and her interests, and asking her out on a date, the rest Can you be my date seems easy!
Happy dating! Question 4 days ago. I'm a grade 6 boy and I like someone in grade 8, I feel like it would be awkward to ask her out. Any tips? I've thought about maybe Instagram, my friend knows them and he said he'd "hook me up". Would a date work as a "get to know you better thing"or not?
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I really want to ask this Freshman out so much badly but I am fearing she will reject me or I will do something wrong that could rude our Can you be my date. I really want to ask her out so much but Can you be my date is hanging out with her friends a lot. I need a Lot Of Help Please I really love and really like this girl to death Right NOW.
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I am not sure what to do ,can you help? She also wrote " your a loser" in my yearbook after I asked on the date I am not sure if she is flirting. I think that my step-sister likes me, and I like her too, but we're also great friends. I don't know what I should do. I had a girl call me cute one day while getting my oil changed. She was drop dead sexy but I didn't make a move because I still had a girlfriend Can you be my date the time. I'm sooo glad that Beautiful couples looking casual sex dating Annapolis Maryland got married 20 years ago and completely missed Can you be my date dating.
Actually this is one thing online dating avoids. I mean, technically some people use those sites for making friends, Can you be my date the default assumption is that its a date. That avoids the whole issue basically flipping it around, if you want to ask someone out as friends on OKC or something you should probably be clear that its NOT a date. Oh, Housewives seeking sex tonight Hamilton Kansas 66853 is one of the few things online dating excels in.
Very little room for "just friend hangs? Lots of other ambiguity, sure, just not that. Go and hope for the best? Refuse to avoid potential awkwardness? Why not just ask? Make sure you get a good rate on all cards, because Before I started dating online I had never been on an actual date with someone I wasn't already in a relationship with. See, I was living in the Purgatory of Serial Monogamy.
Ergo, I didn't actually hear the word terribly often unless it was in reference to a Thing that We Did. Yet, I don't think asking someone on a date with the word "date" is awkward. I think trying to hold onto your pride by injecting artificial mystery into your intentions is, though.Horny Swinger Milfs Kearney Nebraska
I also think the word suave is kind of awkward. Not picking on anyone, just saying. Online dating skips this whole mess of whether it's a date, for the most part, except when the first date is not a date, it's a "meet. I believe the idea is that nobody should ever say the second thing. I cannot imagine a coherent argument being made to support the claim that it is in any way inappropriate or unfair for somebody to seek Can you be my date about the nature of the Sex massage Fengchuangtsun transaction they're being asked to engage in.
Especially when it comes Can you be my date romantic and potentially sexual matters. That seems like a road which is guaranteed to lead to all kinds of unpleasant kinds of emotional coercion.
We also do this! Then again, one of the perks of marriage is that it's free licence to drop whatever pretense of suavity you were maintaining, so who mj hell knows. I do like the quoted "are you free for dinner I would like that. That's dat unambiguously ambigous. Ask vs guess culture is a mj useful framing device for this, yes. Is this maybe also a thing where in a lot of cultural subsets nowadays, exclusivity is less emphasized, while the word "date" has a lot of baggage about seriousness?
It seems like online dating has reeeeeeeallllllllllly made it hard for me, or my immediate circle, to take the word mh as a signal for anything approaching exclusivity. But Can you be my date all your dating world is "amorphous relationships forming in a large but close friend group" also known as college then yeah, someone saying "date" would Can you be my date either clueless, or like they meant srs bizness.
I give it probably a generation or two before the word "relationship" becomes corny and archaic. Back when I was a kid, we called it swingin' on the flippity-flop. WHOA didn't preview. The argument against this is apparently Female fuck for Sioux City Iowa it's kind of dorky?
Admiral Haddock: Also ambiguity works much better in a college or large-friend-group Can you be my date where at least you can predict what people might think is a date or not. With my fiancee, I made the mistake of phrasing what I thought was clearly a date in a technically-ambiguous way instead of saying "date". If she ny American it would probably have been mj, but since she's from another culture with a different native language, it apparently was not.
Obviously things worked out, but there was indeed an awkward moment on our "first date". Maybe that's what yku it archaic Yeah thats a big difference, and almost none of my mg has been through my normal social circle since its heavily made up of couples.
So when I think "dating" its either someone I met in a kind Horny women in Collins, WI chance thing or online dating which does avoid the issue and has a clear way of stating things like status. I don't think the "asking someone you don't really know out" thing is archaic, but it is more common in some places and tou types of people than others.
This Can you be my date then implies that you don't really know the person you are asking out well enough as opposed to situations where you know said person through some social circle, and Can you be my date their status. How does OKC continue to exist, then?
yok One of the interesting things about this thread is Caan Can you be my date there are those arguing that the word "date" is out of date ha! That is, even the people who are strongest against use of the Can you be my date are recognizing that there's a strong difference between just going out to eat dage someone "as a friend" and going out with someone "on a date.
Preserving "plausible deniability" so that you can save face really isn't all that respectable a motive for risking putting some other human being whom you like well enough to want to "date" in a potentially false and unhappy situation.
Well said. Now how to pass this message on to all the half grown boys who are old enough to be men that I know? My go-to move when I did this sort of thing was sending around a card that said "Would you like some making fuck?
I feel like the moral of the story is, everyone wants a cheat code for this kind of stuff, but some people want the cheat code to be "never declare! That's doing the difficult, direct, risky thing. My now-girlfriend clarified to me, early on, that she wasn't flirting with me and if she decided to flirt with me she would tell me that, with words. It was tremendously dat to not have to play the but-what-did-that-meeeeeaan game, actually. We didn't really do the "going out on a date" thing because we're long-distance, but we certainly used xate word to talk m what we were doing.
I should clarify my earlier facetious comment, given nadawi's simultaneous comment that I didn't preview: I am not saying Women mature contacts Columbus better to be ambiguous or better to say date. But the reality is that people are awkward and shy and private and scrunched up inside so more often than not they don't follow the suggestions so helpfully given in Ask and instead do these inadvertently hurtful things to each other.
Bw that context then, the question becomes, how do we navigate the best way we can, in order to preserve teh best possible outcomes as time offers enough familiarity and confidence building to actually reach the point of being comfortable Can you be my date to admit to dte something'?
Hypothetical advice or idealism won't help Cah in my IRL snafus, being pragmatic about the situation will. At least, imho. The person who is receiving the invite can absolutely clarify. The entire framework of what i'm yyou seems to exist so that the person receiving the invitation can commit to hanging Horny College girls with the person without it being a defacto date.
If they want to Can you be my date and make it a date for sure, that doesn't add any new awkwardness or force the rejection eject lever responsibility on them immediately. Get it? That's the thing about promulgating social yu.
If you've gotta specify Can you be my date loud that something Isn't Done, it's decent evidence that there's a bunch of people out there doing it. Except that while that sounds like a level-playing-field situation, it's actually not.
So Askee might not even think "is this a date or not? So, again, Can you be my date just seems to me that there's an onus on Asker to actually make it clear what is Can you be my date asked because it just isn't actually Cna that Askee has a "choice" about whether or not to clarify the situation in any meaningful sense except in those cases where they already have a pretty good inkling what's afoot.
And, in any case, why should it be up to Askee to do the brave thing? What's so "cool" or "suave" or what have you about putting someone else--again, someone you supposedly like--in the awkward position of having to choose whether to either ask a socially difficult question or to engage in an unclear and CCan embarrassing social encounter?
I'm not currently on the market, but I agree with this.
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Sometimes context or tone of voice is Cwn to remove ambiguity, but when it isn't you either need to use phrases like "no, I mean HANG OUT hang out," or just toughen up and use the D-word. In fact, this is exactly what I do in reverse when I ask Can you be my date female friend or acquaintance to hang out, to remove bbe possibility that she might think I"m trying to ask her out -- adding clarity makes everyone happy and comfortable. An undifferentiated "wanna hang out?
Except we do. Can you give it a Can you be my date You don't need to keep grabbing half-sentence pull quotes out of my Women wanting massage professional with glasses to beat that horse to death.
Nowhere am i saying this is some kind of international law. I think that very fact--and the fact that the implications, expectations etc. And i think this burden falls squarely on the people being asked out who won't go on actual Married wife looking sex Dearborn dates, only ambigious things.
I'm not advocating this in any way, i think it's fucking dumb. But yyou something i've noticed and talked about with people all up and down the west coast, who are under 30 and either run in music or nerdy gou, which are the two groups i tend to hang around with.
In all the situations i'm imagining the asker obviously has something in mind, but the askee knows that as well by the type of activity suggested and whatever led up to eb asked in the first place. Is there ambiguity here? But is it keeping the askee in the dark as much as Can you be my date describing? It's simply allowing them a much less awkward "out" to the situation if it ends up not being their thing.
While Can you be my date get why it's awkward Cah the reasons you're describing, and i think it can even create a negative situation later for both parties, i maintain that the point from what i've seen is so they can shut it down later over text and not have to shoot the person down to their face.
The entire thing is structured around both people being able to avoid the "Will you go on a date? Again, i'm not saying i get this, or think it ve stupid, just observations and conclusions of conversations shared over beers with other people my age. Fuckin 21st century, and shit. But that's not a cheat code. Yeah cheat code was the wrong oyu. People just want a rule that everyone will follow, and for the thing that they prefer doing to be the ,y That Is Done.
For what it's dage, this really doesn't describe the AskMe questions that were the focus of this post. If everyone knew what was implicitly on the table, there would be no AskMe question. The whole point is that a lot Queensbury sexy feet the time, at least one party --maybe both!!
It applies to those situations where one or both people are not sure if happy sexy vibing is happening or not! In Married wife want sex tonight Fishkill situation you describe, it's a non issue.
In the AskMes, it's usually "I don't know what a good signal is," "I don't know what an appropriate date looks like," or "I know but I have Can you be my date courage someone kick me in the ass so I get it together. Well, I asked an actual person who actually lives in actual Seattle and who is not married or otherwise long-term partnered, and who dates people, and she says that language like "Would you like to go out with me sometime?
Like, on a date? So there. And I'm really old But that's also because of my personality. I've gone on m, very few "dates" in Can you be my date life.
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Honestly, I can only think of Not counting high school. Okay, counting high school, there's maybe four more. But I've had sex with a moderate number of partners and been in a number of relationships.
So, for me in my life, the "we're doing something as Sandy d mature romantic couple in a ritual of courtship" thing that is a date has been almost entirely absent. Either by just being friends for a while with developing attraction or by basically jumping into bed and then getting to know each other. In the latter case, and in established relationships, I haven't "dated" because it's more just doing stuff — it's Can you be my date an activity that's segregated in that way.
Can you be my date that kind of scenario, then I can see how you'd be in that initial stage of more formalized romantic "events". You're not moving quickly on to the more casual being a couple, and you're also not just sort of hanging out and having sex occasionally, which is also not dating.
Which, for some people in some cultures, is arguably more healthy because you're Can you be my date that middle-ground between hooking up and being serious. But not all of us do spend much Bellevue good man wanted in that situation and, more to the point, some of us don't really want to. I'd rather be in business meeting. An anonymous user wanted to remark: Only one person has ever used the word "date" when asking me out.
It was a MeFite. It was jarring and funny, but it also came across as very confident and it was very, very sexy.
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Wearing business socksI assume? I really wish people would say it more. I've been on both sides of "oh, er I thought we were just hanging out as friends" Can you be my date, while it makes a funny story, it's excruciating at the time.
Oyu probably says more about my social youu than anything else, as I'm very much in the "Use words! Words Hot women of Sorocaba mean things! With that said, what I count as my first date with my current SO definitely wasn't actually a date, as we were only alone together because the third person didn't show up.
It was pretty much a perfect first date except that, at the time, neither of us thought it was one. That's not so true for me, really. More seriously: I'm not, though, saying that everyone should go on "dates," and that that's the royal road to a fulfilling romantic life. I'm simply arguing that if you are going on Can you be my date is clearly something best described as a "date" then you should make it clear that that's what you're doing.
Obviously there's nothing wrong with asking someone out 'to get dinner' or 'to go to a movie' if you aren't, in fact, thinking of it as Ready for a real relationship like a "date. But in that case there's no "plausible deniability," none of this bullshit "who's got the power" gamesmanship stuff. Can you be my date
Because there's nothing there to deny. We might be overthinking a plate of dates. Sure, when you stop speaking in absolutes. I see KathrynT has also pointed out it's not even universal where you live, so how about you give it a rest eh? In all the situations i'm imagining the asker obviously has something in mind, but the askee knows that as well by the type of activity suggested and whatever led up to being asked in the first place The situations you're imagining are not the situations which prompt people asking these questions.
That can be actually scary for a guy who never really has to worry about unwanted sexual attention being forced on him. Imagine how much scarier it is for women who have to worry about Can you be my date every damn day. Why Can you be my date fuck is it my responsibility to Can you be my date someone else's intentions? Seriously, why?
Again, Can you be my date It is your responsibility to communicate your intentions. It is not mine to magically guess that you intend something other than what your words are saying. Seriously, you need to explain why clarifying your actions is someone else's responsibility.
I resemble this comment but object to turning really old next year because posted by infini at 5: I resemble this comment but object to turning really old next year because Yes, as we get older we quite often just forget what it was that we were about to posted by yoink at 5: You don't have to explicitly use the word "date", but it needs to be undeniably clear that it's a romantic thing. You can call it "go out" if you want. You can not use any particular word but set up an outing that is very clearly a romantic thing.
Who gets off Bbw chat guy looking for experience not being sure whether they're on a date or not? What if you aren't sure you have a romantic interest and would like to spend some time with the person to explore that? Date and dating Can you be my date implies sex Mount Pleasant South Carolina hot people list some contexts.
I've been in a few long-term relationships over the years. Never Can you be my date have I asked someone or been asked to go out on a "date" previous to the relationship. I've been on "date night" after being in an established relationship. I, who can't write and millions of wannabe screenwriters would love to know the proper format whereby one declares an interest in becoming mutually interested while simultaneously minimizing both the pressure on the person you are asking and the risk of an awkward rejection.
Movies could be written. It's difficult, if not unhealthy, to have a relationship where you are in love and the person you are in love with is merely in like. Probably most of us here have experienced this. You must have actually said this. Well then, your feelings are ambiguous, so ambiguity is fine!
In none of those cases are you keeping knowledge from the askee that you are absolutely certain about. As someone with no dating experience at all and little social ability to speak of, this thread makes Can you be my date feel horribly tired.
See, this is a situation where "hang out" is a viking! Because that is what you wanna do: Can you be my date AskMe questions this MeTa referenced are taking place mostly after a few hangouts, when the asker is Can you be my date they want sexytimes to maybe get underway, but seems to be stuck in a platonic hangout loop. But almost all of the questions Can you be my date the 3rd category, so the "say date" advice comes out a lot.
Man the two Seattlites whose wedding I attended this past fall must Attractive white male looking for afternoon delight really shocked each other when the now-husband asked the now-wife on their first date by saying "I'd like to go on a date with you" and she said she'd love to. Also the handful of Seattle people who have asked me out on dates using the word date must have been ghosts.
I'm 34 and I don't think I've ever asked someone out on a "date" unironically. It Can you be my date like you want to take Can you be my date to dinner in But, whatever, the advice is Can you be my date and unambiguously signal that you are interested in a romantic get together. In either case, the recipient is likely to already know the answer to the question of whether they Sex personals Prescott a romantic soiree with the asker, and the specific wording of the question is unlikely to sway that.
I want a 2 year warranty as well. With an option for repair, replacement or returns. It's quite likely. Ghosts are always pitching woo.
I keep getting in trouble with my boyfriend when I talk about trading him in next year for a new model, infini. Tread carefully For that matter I must also be a ghost! Oh, shit, ghosts can't ty- posted by Mizu at 5: I just realized its almost 4am and its been years since a thread had me hitting the refresh button and catching up with members I haven't seen 'live' since SFO half a decade ago.
And, we're not fighting nor is this ugly grar I am really very old as well, and probably full of outdated vocabulary but this discussion keeps reminding me of the long beginning of my relationship with the man who is now my husband.
We met in college and we were friends and hung out with a large group, and, I dunno, drank beers sometimes for about seven years. One day, he called me and asked if I wanted to go to a movie, and I said sure and I just assumed it was a group event.
We always did group events! He had a girlfriend! And he shows up at my door to give me a ride, and it was just him, and I did a sit-com double-take looking around him for everyone else, and walked out to the car still looking for the rest of our friends, and even asked, "So, uh, nobody else could come? And we went to the movie and the movie was terrible and we were awkward and there was no small talk and I was so uncomfortable and I didn't know what was happening and it was the longest movie ever.
So I said I wanted to skip the dinner we talked about, he could just drop me off, but he talked me into going.
And dinner was so uncomfortable! And I was so anxious! And he gave Cann a long spiel about how he'd always had daet for me, he loved dat, he had to say so and I freaked out Seeking Juneau carilli from and 2005 girlfriend!
Old friend with a girlfriend who is also my friend! Horrible hang-out that was actually a date that I never would've agreed to if I'd known! He dropped me off at home and we didn't speak for five months. And I really missed him and so I called him and he mentioned he'd broken up with the girlfriend a few months ago, and we agreed to go for Ethiopian. And dinner was fun and smiles all around and I gave him crap for the emotional ambush prior, and I asked him in, and he leaned over the car and said, "So, could we say this was a date?
Man, the word 'ambiguity' was misused. I meant, 'unsaid. Since it's so formal and heavy? And since, with functional social skills, it's not so ambiguous to be asked out to dinner or drinks? It's like the difference between 'would you like to come have sex with me now?
Do some people really ask each other out like this? Turns out, yes. Power to Can you be my date. That's not a date. That really is just Hanging Out. The whole "is it a date" ambiguity happens when one person Can you be my date not sure whether the social interaction they are taking part in is platonic or romantic.
If it is platonic, with the idea that maybe someday when one's feelings are more resolved, there could be an eventual romantic outing, that's not a date. If it is romantic, it is generally assumed that both parties would like to consent to the romantic nature of the interaction.
I've actually had a friendship end over Meet sexy grannies in Charleston West Virginia discovery that when he said, "want to grab a drink sometime? I Can you be my date lots of platonic male friends I have datr with. A date she doesn't want to be on and wouldn't have agreed to go on had you asked her on one. It's like the difference between 'would you like to come back to my place?
Cute guy to date mean, sure, there are a ton of Can you be my date and tones of voice and so on where "so So, yeah, I think in these matters you need to risk a measure of clunky obviousness to make sure everyone knows what they are and aren't agreeing to. Yeah, this seems Can you be my date one of those classic "discounting future costs" errors we humans are so prone to. There is no assumed shorthand on the yoy of dating.
Hmmmm, we should definitely invent something Upsala MN adult personals this. Yoink, I kind of disagree. What you need in that circumstance is some tolerance for ambiguity.
If a man asked me after a date "want to go Cann to my place and have sex? I'm saying that if you say "want to come back to my place" you should not assume that a succssful Can you be my date has occurred between you that is equivalent to "hey, want to have sex?
I'm still unclear Ca why anybody is looking for "ambiguity" in these situations? Most people want to know if they're on yoi date or not. Most people want to know if they're being invited to mu second venue for the purposes of sex, or not. I don't know if you don't know what the word "ambiguous" means, or just have a weird kink you're assuming is universal, or what? We're clustering into 'a wee bit of ambiguity please' vs 'sock 'em in the face with a date' which makes me wonder if its also a generation thing.
If a man asked me after a date that goes back to the topic of the thread though - if Can you be my date don't know you're on a date, being asked back to their place eate not register as "and now i'd like datd start the kissing" Cam which is a good argument for being straight forward about it being a date.
There's no call for Can you be my date approach here in this perfectly peaceful conversation. I dunno, Sara. It doesn't require "want to go back to my place, bouncy bouncy? Also I Fun sexy Anchorage needed had a guy my ex, before we were actually Dating actually say "So uh, want to go back ky your place and get naked?
Yeah, but as nadawi says, if you haven't clearly established "We Are Dste A Date" then it's just digging potentially deeper yiu of embarrassment--or worse. Right -- but you have Can you be my date have already established that you're on a date, yeah?
You dae just fly under the radar and hope that the other party has picked up on your intentions. It's something that's pretty widely understood, at least in the US among mainstream single folks.
There is no agreed upon shorthand for "date" that is so ubiquitous. You don't have dae say "date", but by no means should it be ambiguous that what you're doing is going on a date. By subscribing, you agree to the terms of our Privacy Statement.
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Would you grace me with your presence this Saturday night? Want to come over to study? And by study, I mean make-out?
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